We live in a very sports-oriented area. That can be a little awkward at times. We are currently in our second year of parkour, and last year he did a season of non-competitive soccer (and loved it!). We have also considered swim team for him because he loves to swim. I'm not sure how the winning & loosing of swim team will go for him, but we won't know until we try it. Our school offers clubs after school, and I've also found this a great way for him to interact with peers without it being competition focused (right now he is in Lego club!)
In the area we live in: it is expected that children will go to college. When you have a child with a neurological difference or disability you take it a year at a time. For now Bryce is advanced in math and struggles with reading and spelling (though at the moment he is on grade level!) With his aptitude for drawing and 3D visualization, we encourage him that he would make a good architect, engineer, or city planner someday. When the time comes if college isn’t in the picture we will help him find training for a suitable job.
I also ask questions I can't answer like: "Will he drive a car? Will he live independently? If he goes to college will he live at home and commute?" And while it wouldn't be good for me to obsess over these questions, I do think its good to prepare and think through the possibilities.
I just added this section (pt #7, felt it should go here!) I find myself celebrating the little victories more. "He understands his 2's times tables!" and "He loved open gym Friday night, which means we have a way to get date nights!" Other things on my list include: him learning to shower on his own, him showing empathy to others, passing the "deep end" swim test, writing in his journal for school, and making friends independent of our support.
Do you have a child with unique needs? What kind of differences do you encounter?